Monday, August 29, 2011

Storm in the Heart: Survivor's Guilt

Excerpt from A Broken Heart Still Beats; after your child dies.  It is a collection of grief anthologies.  This quote is from Terry: My Daughter's Life and Death Struggle with Alcoholism by George McGovern.

Why did it take her death to trigger this search for understanding...?  I can't give satisfying answers to these questions.  What I can tell you is that the sorrow of losing one of your children is almost unbearable.  It is sad beyond any measure that I had imagined.  Death is devastating and final and agonizing for a parent.  There is no way you can avoid a full measure of painful regrets and might-have-beens.  Your friends and counselors will tell you: "Don't blame yourself.  It's not your fault-you did the best you could."  This advice is well meant and may even be true.  It doesn't help much.  You'll be sad, and will hurt when you lie down to sleep, when you awake in the night, when you rise in the morning, when you hear her children laughing, when you see a Christmas tree, or whenever you recall her dancing eyes, her lingering embrace, her glorious smile.  I'm especially sad on June 10-her birthday and on December 13, when she died in the snow.

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